There has been a lot of criticism of John and Steve for their lack of moves in the game. I however believe they have been playing the game this whole time, but their moves are more subtle and personal than the moves an aggressive game player would make. Week after week they have been making moves to keep themselves in the game. Even if those moves are to make themselves invisible it is still a move. People criticized Johnny Mac for wanting to get rid of Meg over Austin & Liz. But for Johnny Mac's game it made sense. He is the goat, and you don't need two. However he did recognize the fact that he needed to pad his resume with a win so he could have a legitimate argument to win the game. But the problem for him is that Vanessa recognized that he was a goat that could take her spot in the final three. So now his back is against the corner and he has to win. He has no other choice, he must win this veto if he wants to stay in the game.
You could argue that if he had only kept Meg in this game that this final four could be very different and much more favorable to him. And perhaps that is the truth. He could have been in a final four alliance with James, Meg and Steve and could have run Austin, Liz, and Vanessa out of the house. But the fault for that decision lies with James and Meg. They only needed Steve and Johnny Mac to vote their way and they survive. But they didn't try to win their vote. They didn't try to make an alliance with them. That is their fault, not Johnny Mac and Steve's. Promise them final four if they vote for Meg to stay. So at this point Johnny Mac and Steve are on the block and that may not have been the case had Julia been voted out instead of Meg. But lay the blame on James and Meg, their inadequate gameplay caused their poor situation.
Johnny Mac and Steve made their best decision at the time that they could have. They lasted another week and they were one dropped egg (by Vanessa) away from being safe a second time. It was not a mistake to vote out Meg, it was the right call, it just turned wrong like it can so often do in the Big Brother house.
Monday, September 14, 2015
Tuesday, September 1, 2015
Big Brother: Vanessa's best move
When you look at the game from Vanessa's perspective, what is her best move going to be at this point? She has won HoH the week before a double eviction. Despite the fact she has no idea it is coming how best can she better her game and ensure her safety at the next eviction? This is the question that I would like to figure out the answer for.
Vanessa has put Meg and James on the block for eviction. She in her eyes, gave them an opportunity to form an alliance with her, or at the very least give her a reason to not put them on the block. So she feels justified in putting them up for eviction. Despite the popularity of James and Meg, putting them on the block is the best option for Vanessa. They are not loyal to her and in fact would be the most likely to put her on the block in case of an unlikely HoH win. However with this double eviction looming there is a very real possibility of James winning that HoH and evicting her unless she can win that POV comp. For the other houseguests with the exception of Steve and John, this is the prime opportunity to get rid of Vanessa. She is someone who can talk her way out of anything. And with a sped up eviction she will not get that chance.
At this point Meg and Julia are on the block together, Vanessa needs Meg to be voted out, but she needs Austin and Liz to take the blame for it. Unfortunately, with Julia on the block it looks like their hands are tied and they have no choice but to vote out Meg. Perhaps she can mend fences with James now that he is safe, and try to convince him that the Austwins are the bigger threat and they absolutely cannot make it to final six. It is the truth after all if they make it to final six intact then they control half the votes and it will make it very hard to get them out of the game.
I think getting Meg out, smoothing over her relationship with James, keeping the alliance with Steve and Johnny Mack, and secretly turning on the Austwins in the next two votes would be her best move. Let Meg take the fall for James, and get him on your side. She absolutely does not want him to go to the final two, but if she can get him on her side for at least one to two votes then she will be golden. But she still needs to be okay with the Austwins because if she openly turns against them and then they happen to win HoH at some point soon then she will be their target.
This will be a tough road for Vanessa to make it to the final two but she can do it. And if she does I think she has the most compelling case to win the game, provided that she owns up to her game.
Vanessa has put Meg and James on the block for eviction. She in her eyes, gave them an opportunity to form an alliance with her, or at the very least give her a reason to not put them on the block. So she feels justified in putting them up for eviction. Despite the popularity of James and Meg, putting them on the block is the best option for Vanessa. They are not loyal to her and in fact would be the most likely to put her on the block in case of an unlikely HoH win. However with this double eviction looming there is a very real possibility of James winning that HoH and evicting her unless she can win that POV comp. For the other houseguests with the exception of Steve and John, this is the prime opportunity to get rid of Vanessa. She is someone who can talk her way out of anything. And with a sped up eviction she will not get that chance.
At this point Meg and Julia are on the block together, Vanessa needs Meg to be voted out, but she needs Austin and Liz to take the blame for it. Unfortunately, with Julia on the block it looks like their hands are tied and they have no choice but to vote out Meg. Perhaps she can mend fences with James now that he is safe, and try to convince him that the Austwins are the bigger threat and they absolutely cannot make it to final six. It is the truth after all if they make it to final six intact then they control half the votes and it will make it very hard to get them out of the game.
I think getting Meg out, smoothing over her relationship with James, keeping the alliance with Steve and Johnny Mack, and secretly turning on the Austwins in the next two votes would be her best move. Let Meg take the fall for James, and get him on your side. She absolutely does not want him to go to the final two, but if she can get him on her side for at least one to two votes then she will be golden. But she still needs to be okay with the Austwins because if she openly turns against them and then they happen to win HoH at some point soon then she will be their target.
This will be a tough road for Vanessa to make it to the final two but she can do it. And if she does I think she has the most compelling case to win the game, provided that she owns up to her game.
What I Like About Fear the Walking Dead
Fear the Walking Dead is a companion show to the Walking Dead. It is set in the time where Rick Grimes is in a coma. This is about the world descending into chaos and death.
What is cool about the Walking Dead is that it does feel like a comic book sometimes. The characters are real and the emotions you feel for them are real, but the situations they are in feel like they are pulled from an amazing novel, or comic book. I love that about the Walking Dead. But Fear is different. This is a world which we can see ourselves in. This family could be any one of us. That is what makes it different yet still exciting. It feels like a completely different show. The direction, the photography, the setting, the actors, the music, it is all unique to Fear.
The show starts off (after the intro with Nick) in a very domesticated place. It has all the simple problems of the first world, and the mundane of everyday life. But there is an underlying tension throughout because we know that this is all going to be gone in a matter of days perhaps even hours.
After only two episodes I truly care about these characters and what happens to them. After the Walking Dead I had the same feeling, so they have that in common. Yet in this show I care about them all, and the most favorite character of mine is the troubled drug addict son. Perhaps because he is the true underdog of this show, and has the furthest to climb is what makes me root for him so much. He is the first character you meet in this show, and you are introduced to the zombie apocalypse through his eyes, just like Rick. I can't wait to see what happens to this kid and who he will become in the future.
What is cool about the Walking Dead is that it does feel like a comic book sometimes. The characters are real and the emotions you feel for them are real, but the situations they are in feel like they are pulled from an amazing novel, or comic book. I love that about the Walking Dead. But Fear is different. This is a world which we can see ourselves in. This family could be any one of us. That is what makes it different yet still exciting. It feels like a completely different show. The direction, the photography, the setting, the actors, the music, it is all unique to Fear.
The show starts off (after the intro with Nick) in a very domesticated place. It has all the simple problems of the first world, and the mundane of everyday life. But there is an underlying tension throughout because we know that this is all going to be gone in a matter of days perhaps even hours.
After only two episodes I truly care about these characters and what happens to them. After the Walking Dead I had the same feeling, so they have that in common. Yet in this show I care about them all, and the most favorite character of mine is the troubled drug addict son. Perhaps because he is the true underdog of this show, and has the furthest to climb is what makes me root for him so much. He is the first character you meet in this show, and you are introduced to the zombie apocalypse through his eyes, just like Rick. I can't wait to see what happens to this kid and who he will become in the future.
Monday, August 24, 2015
You really need a bread box!
So in all my life I knew what a bread box was. It's a place where you keep bread. But I had no idea of the actual purpose of the bread box. It is not just a place to keep your bread or to stop a mouse from nibbling off its end. It is a place where you can extend the freshness of your beloved bread. I used to keep the bread for less than a week and then it became stiffer and stale. When I placed it in a cupboard one night because of a mouse in our house. To my surprise when i left the bread there for close to a week it was still as fresh as when I had bought it. So thank you to that mouse that opened my eyes. For now after two weeks our bread is still a prize. :)
Friday, August 21, 2015
Big Brother: How does Johnny Mack get to the end? (Spoilers)
America's favorite contestant Johnny Mack is so close to the end of this game. But how can he make it the rest of the way? Does he need to win competitions and start sending people home himself? Does he need to continue to lay low and fade into the background and let the bigger dogs take each other out? The truth is probably more of a combination of the two.
We now have 8 people left in the house. And it seems as if Johnny Mack is in a good spot this week. He has aligned himself with Steve and the Austwins. He chose their side for a few reasons, they keep winning, and the likelihood of the James/Meg combo of winning HoH's is small. So an alliance with James and Meg is not that beneficial to him. He also sees them as a threat to win the game if they did make it to the end because they are so beloved to the rest of the houseguests. However the only way he can make it past final five is if he actually wins that HoH. If he loses it to the twins or Austin there is no way both him and Steve can make it. That threesome is unbreakable and will need to be broken before final five.
Next week a juror comes back in the house. If the Austwins send home anyone other than James then they are screwed because whoever comes back in the house will be an alliance member for James and Meg and will give them three votes. If they try to backdoor Vanessa this week it would be a huge mistake for their game.
However for Johnny Mack to make the end of the game I think he might need to align with Vanessa. He can't align with James and Meg, they are too close and too popular. However Vanessa is disliked by most of the Houseguests. She could turn from a strategic threat to a very good goat to take to the final two. He needs to let the Austwins take out James or Meg, then hold off one more vote to see who makes it back from the jury. He may not even want to work with the returnee because those houseguests are very popular (except shelli).
This is my plan for Johnny Mack to make it to the end step by step.
1. Vote out James this week.
2. Vote out whoever returns (unless they win HoH) (if they do convince them to break up the Austwins before going after Vanessa)
3. Sell the Austwins out to Vanessa and one of the three wins HoH
(hopefully Vanessa and then she can get the blood on her hands)
4. Vote out Austin
5. Get that next HoH and get out Julia or Liz
6. Pray that the remaining twin doesn't win HoH but if she does then work on evicting Vanessa
or possibly Steve to secure yourself a vote
7. Stay alive through that last vote out so you can play in the final three
8. Make a deal with both houseguests remaining to go to the final two
9.Plead your case for the win and make sure you have all your moves laid out so that everyone will respect your game.
Obviously this is all just an idea and could go horribly wrong at any moment. There are so many obstacles in Big Brother that you have to get through each and every work. So there are multiple opportunities for it all to fall apart. But the best players can pick up the pieces and continue on.
We now have 8 people left in the house. And it seems as if Johnny Mack is in a good spot this week. He has aligned himself with Steve and the Austwins. He chose their side for a few reasons, they keep winning, and the likelihood of the James/Meg combo of winning HoH's is small. So an alliance with James and Meg is not that beneficial to him. He also sees them as a threat to win the game if they did make it to the end because they are so beloved to the rest of the houseguests. However the only way he can make it past final five is if he actually wins that HoH. If he loses it to the twins or Austin there is no way both him and Steve can make it. That threesome is unbreakable and will need to be broken before final five.
Next week a juror comes back in the house. If the Austwins send home anyone other than James then they are screwed because whoever comes back in the house will be an alliance member for James and Meg and will give them three votes. If they try to backdoor Vanessa this week it would be a huge mistake for their game.
However for Johnny Mack to make the end of the game I think he might need to align with Vanessa. He can't align with James and Meg, they are too close and too popular. However Vanessa is disliked by most of the Houseguests. She could turn from a strategic threat to a very good goat to take to the final two. He needs to let the Austwins take out James or Meg, then hold off one more vote to see who makes it back from the jury. He may not even want to work with the returnee because those houseguests are very popular (except shelli).
This is my plan for Johnny Mack to make it to the end step by step.
1. Vote out James this week.
2. Vote out whoever returns (unless they win HoH) (if they do convince them to break up the Austwins before going after Vanessa)
3. Sell the Austwins out to Vanessa and one of the three wins HoH
(hopefully Vanessa and then she can get the blood on her hands)
4. Vote out Austin
5. Get that next HoH and get out Julia or Liz
6. Pray that the remaining twin doesn't win HoH but if she does then work on evicting Vanessa
or possibly Steve to secure yourself a vote
7. Stay alive through that last vote out so you can play in the final three
8. Make a deal with both houseguests remaining to go to the final two
9.Plead your case for the win and make sure you have all your moves laid out so that everyone will respect your game.
Obviously this is all just an idea and could go horribly wrong at any moment. There are so many obstacles in Big Brother that you have to get through each and every work. So there are multiple opportunities for it all to fall apart. But the best players can pick up the pieces and continue on.
Thursday, July 30, 2015
Passive Parenting: It's not a thing!
I apologize in advance for this rant.
So you take your child to the pool, the park, the playground so that she can have a fun time and play with other kids and make friends. I try to sit back so she can learn social interactions on her own. And if she is misbehaving then I will intervene and correct her behavior however few and far between it happens.
So what do I mean by passive parenting? There are few different types of parents that annoy me at these public places. One would be the type of parents who ignore their child completely and let them do whatever the hell they want to even if its destructive. But the one I would like to talk about I call a passive parent. So when their child does something inappropriate they make the attempt to correct the behavior but when the child ignores them they just let them go like they actually did something. No you didn't. If your child is misbehaving correct their behavior. Make them stop whatever it is they are doing that you don't approve of.
So your child is taking toys from other kids. You tell her to come over to talk to you and when she finally does she's angry because you stopped her from doing what she wanted, so she walks over and kicks you. Then you say hey what are you doing? hey stop taking toys, be nice. And then they walk off angry. You yell after hey did you hear me. She says nothing. Goes back to playing and takes somebody's toy again. And you shake your head and continue to sit there. I'm sorry but come on. That child ignored what you said, kicked you, and they continue their inappropriate behavior. It is okay to embarrass your kids and yourself when you correct their behavior. Even if they kick and scream and shout it doesn't matter. You can't let that behavior continue. Even if you have to leave five minutes after you get there because your kid isn't listening then that is what you have to do. And if you do this a few times they will start to listen to you and behave.
So do not be a passive parent. Take control of your kids and teach them the behavior that you want them to have. And if they do not, then they will need to have consequences.
Sunday, July 26, 2015
Big Brother: Vanessa & Steve alliance
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Is this a real alliance between Vanessa and Steve? I caught a bit of the live feeds last night. I came in the middle of a conversation between Vanessa and Steve. I believe their alliance name is Students of Sound. I am hoping beyond hope that this is a real genuine alliance for Vanessa that she plans on being loyal to. They were talking game to each other, and she was asking for help figuring out this whole Austin situation. Apparently Austin had spilled the beans to Jason about the twins and about their alliance. And of course Jason went back and told Vanessa. So now everyone wants Austin out of the house. And Steve was trying to convince her that the right thing to do would be to evict Becky instead. Because Becky is for sure on the other side, whereas Austin would go after that other alliance rather than Vanessa. He brought up the comparison to when Derrick changed his mind about evicting Zack in the previous season because everyone was saying Zack was a snake. But he was on Derrick's side and he was loyal so why vote him out when he will never come after you. It's a sound strategy. Why evict someone who is on your side and leave someone in the house who can win a HoH and will for sure come after your alliance? But can she rebuild that trust with Austin so that if he does win HoH he won't put her up?
The thing that worries me about this alliance is that in the middle of their conversation Jackie comes in and interrupts them. Vanessa hides her real conversation with Steve, which is smart. But when Steve leaves the room she changes her tune completely and is making fun of Steve with Jackie. Just watching this one bit of live feeds has made me so much more on Steve's side. I am now definitely a fan.
But the questions remains who is she loyal to other than herself?
Friday, July 17, 2015
Big Brother: Sick and Tired of One Side Winning
Big Brother is at its best when there are two sides fighting against each other week after week. And when the power shifts that is when its most exciting. But this season it seems that after the first week, this huge alliance had come together to get rid of Da'Vonne and it left everyone else out. And the rest of the houseguests have yet to come together themselves to realize that they are on the outside.
So you have Clay, Shelli, Austin, & Vanessa. They have brought in Steve, Liz, Audrey, and Becky and Johnny Mack will do whatever they say. Now I know Johnny Mack knows better but he is just trying to get by now so I can respect that. Becky had her HoH taken over by Shelli and has done nothing that I can see in this game. On the other side we have Jackie, Jason, Meg, James. Those four need to come together, steal Becky, John, and Steve from the other side and win some competitions. The problem is those four seem to be playing the same game. They keep expecting the target to be Audrey an when it's not they are surprised and shocked and another number on their side goes home. But since they are not solid enough they don't care. Wise up people!
This alliance between Clay, Shelli, Austin and Vanessa almost reminds me of the brigade from season twelve. They have a core four alliance and then they bring in someone else so that they can control all the votes, and then when they don't need your vote anymore they cut you. However I do believe these four can be broken up at some point. But someone on the other side needs to win.
I really dislike Shelli, Clay, and Vanessa. Austin is up in the air for me, but this past week when he was highlighted more I didn't really care for him. And this Judas thing is a joke. All Judas is a name he drops in the diary room.
Now I think I am officially out on the Battle of the Block. This gets too much cooperation between a large group of people. Is it really a coincidence that in these two season of the battle of the block that we end up with a large alliance. You bring two people together who have to nominate four people to go on the block. And they can't put up their actual target because that gives them a 50/50 chance of saving themselves. So it really doesn't prevent a huge player from being evicted because they will never be given the chance to save themselves. And if they are the person they are with will just throw it. I think after this season they need to retire the Battle of the Block and go back to one HoH.
Now I would like to say good job to Clay/Shelli/Austin/Vanessa for creating this large group of very good competitors and keeping it under wraps. They are playing a good game so I can appreciate them for that.
So you have Clay, Shelli, Austin, & Vanessa. They have brought in Steve, Liz, Audrey, and Becky and Johnny Mack will do whatever they say. Now I know Johnny Mack knows better but he is just trying to get by now so I can respect that. Becky had her HoH taken over by Shelli and has done nothing that I can see in this game. On the other side we have Jackie, Jason, Meg, James. Those four need to come together, steal Becky, John, and Steve from the other side and win some competitions. The problem is those four seem to be playing the same game. They keep expecting the target to be Audrey an when it's not they are surprised and shocked and another number on their side goes home. But since they are not solid enough they don't care. Wise up people!
This alliance between Clay, Shelli, Austin and Vanessa almost reminds me of the brigade from season twelve. They have a core four alliance and then they bring in someone else so that they can control all the votes, and then when they don't need your vote anymore they cut you. However I do believe these four can be broken up at some point. But someone on the other side needs to win.
I really dislike Shelli, Clay, and Vanessa. Austin is up in the air for me, but this past week when he was highlighted more I didn't really care for him. And this Judas thing is a joke. All Judas is a name he drops in the diary room.
Now I think I am officially out on the Battle of the Block. This gets too much cooperation between a large group of people. Is it really a coincidence that in these two season of the battle of the block that we end up with a large alliance. You bring two people together who have to nominate four people to go on the block. And they can't put up their actual target because that gives them a 50/50 chance of saving themselves. So it really doesn't prevent a huge player from being evicted because they will never be given the chance to save themselves. And if they are the person they are with will just throw it. I think after this season they need to retire the Battle of the Block and go back to one HoH.
Now I would like to say good job to Clay/Shelli/Austin/Vanessa for creating this large group of very good competitors and keeping it under wraps. They are playing a good game so I can appreciate them for that.
Monday, July 13, 2015
Big Brother: #Love Johnny Mack
It has been difficult to say the least to find my favorite Big Brother Houseguest this season. My favorite was Da'Vonne, but with her being sent home so early I have had to find a new houseguest to root for. That is the way I watch Big Brother. I must find my favorite and then that is where the fun comes in for me. Watching and rooting for my favorite to go all the way to the end. And luckily most of my favorites have gone far. From Dr. Will, to Jenelle, to Dan, to Brittney, to Derrick, to Elissa, to Rachel, and now since Da'Vonne is gone I have switched my love to Johnny Mack, the dentist from Scranton, Pa. The more I watch this guy the more I love him.
His diary room confessionals are always hilarious even if what he's doing is stupid. He is completely on the bottom of his "alliance" and he knows it, but he also knows whenever somebody who is in power says to do something, the best thing you can do is agree, even if you don't actually do it. But so far it has worked out for him. I am so glad he did not listen to Clay and Shelli when they asked him to not use the PoV. And the fact that they even asked that was ridiculous. I think his plan is potentially to ride in the middle of these alliances and to let them take each other out, and then when it gets closer to the end he can make an alliance to go to the end. Hopefully it works out. I would love to see a guy like John win this game.
So who actually do I like in this game? I like Jason. I liked him better when Da'Vonne was in the house. But we haven't actually seen much of him since then. I would like it very much if Jason and John were to eventually make an alliance but we can't have everything we want. I semi like Meg. But she was so angry about being nominated again. I have a feeling she was trying to play under the radar but that's not gonna work now. So since she's gonna be so angry about getting nominated again and again then she needs to buck up and win a competition. Someone has to save her friends. I want to like Audrey. I need to see more of her though, we're only seeing bits and pieces and what they have shown hasn't been so flattering. So she needs to open up more about her personal life so we can see more than just Audrey the gamer. I thought I was going to love Vanessa, but I don't. Perhaps it's because she's now in a powerful alliance and she is a big part of Da'Vonne going home. I usually tend to root for the underdogs and she is no longer that. Anyone else I didn't mention either has not made much of an impact for me, or I hate (Clay and Shelli).
His diary room confessionals are always hilarious even if what he's doing is stupid. He is completely on the bottom of his "alliance" and he knows it, but he also knows whenever somebody who is in power says to do something, the best thing you can do is agree, even if you don't actually do it. But so far it has worked out for him. I am so glad he did not listen to Clay and Shelli when they asked him to not use the PoV. And the fact that they even asked that was ridiculous. I think his plan is potentially to ride in the middle of these alliances and to let them take each other out, and then when it gets closer to the end he can make an alliance to go to the end. Hopefully it works out. I would love to see a guy like John win this game.
So who actually do I like in this game? I like Jason. I liked him better when Da'Vonne was in the house. But we haven't actually seen much of him since then. I would like it very much if Jason and John were to eventually make an alliance but we can't have everything we want. I semi like Meg. But she was so angry about being nominated again. I have a feeling she was trying to play under the radar but that's not gonna work now. So since she's gonna be so angry about getting nominated again and again then she needs to buck up and win a competition. Someone has to save her friends. I want to like Audrey. I need to see more of her though, we're only seeing bits and pieces and what they have shown hasn't been so flattering. So she needs to open up more about her personal life so we can see more than just Audrey the gamer. I thought I was going to love Vanessa, but I don't. Perhaps it's because she's now in a powerful alliance and she is a big part of Da'Vonne going home. I usually tend to root for the underdogs and she is no longer that. Anyone else I didn't mention either has not made much of an impact for me, or I hate (Clay and Shelli).
Wednesday, July 8, 2015
Stigma of Being a Stay at Home Mom
I have been a stay at home mom the past four years since my daughter was born. It is hard to feel super successful and satisfied with my life when society seems to think less of the women who make the choice to raise their children.
A few weeks back I met this woman at an event of my daughters. While she was in class, the woman chatted my ear off about many things. I am a shy person, so I am happy to listen as others who like to talk do so. I saw her for a few weeks, and then finally when I got a word in edgewise, I happen to mention that I stay home with my daughter and then I never saw this woman again. And I saw her daughter at the classes. This may just be paranoia but it was quite a coincidence.
I am not dumb, or anti-feminist, or lazy, or less than, just because I am a stay at home mom. I chose to be. I decided to leave my job because it was just a job, and it didn't give me enough money to make it worthwhile. I didn't have a career. But even those that do have a career that they are proud of who choose to stay at home with their children are still worthwhile.
I am almost afraid to even say that I stay at home, because you never know what that person's opinion will be. I tend to think more about what others think of me than what I think of myself. That is my failing as a person, but it doesn't make it okay to think down on someone who chooses a life with their children. It doesn't mean that they give up themselves for their children. It doesn't make you a better mother to have a job or not.
I wanted to be there for her, to protect her, to teach her right from wrong, to help learn things, to make her feel loved. I am trying so hard to make her feel everything that I didn't feel when I was a child. All I want is to do right by her. Not to mention she is an amazing kid who is a blast to hang out with.
I'd like to mention my mother. She is someone who was a stay at home mom, she had a job when my sisters and i were older, but for the most part she stayed at home with us. I don't know if she was super happy doing so. I think it was just something that was done then. But when my sister had a child she used to harass my sister about quitting her job. But my sister has a career that she loves. That she has put years of school and work into. For her staying at home is not the right decision. And i respect that. She is a great mom who loves her kids, and has given them the best life she can. But my mom always thought less of her for not quitting her job. But when it came to myself and I quit my job to stay at home, she keeps asking me if I will be getting a job when my daughter goes to school. I don't understand why. But it definitely makes me feel insecure. I only want to do what's right for our family at the right time.
So just let people do what's right for them. And don't put your own opinions on other people. What's right for you doesn't make it right for everyone. Do not think less of someone for doing what's right for their family.
A few weeks back I met this woman at an event of my daughters. While she was in class, the woman chatted my ear off about many things. I am a shy person, so I am happy to listen as others who like to talk do so. I saw her for a few weeks, and then finally when I got a word in edgewise, I happen to mention that I stay home with my daughter and then I never saw this woman again. And I saw her daughter at the classes. This may just be paranoia but it was quite a coincidence.
I am not dumb, or anti-feminist, or lazy, or less than, just because I am a stay at home mom. I chose to be. I decided to leave my job because it was just a job, and it didn't give me enough money to make it worthwhile. I didn't have a career. But even those that do have a career that they are proud of who choose to stay at home with their children are still worthwhile.
I am almost afraid to even say that I stay at home, because you never know what that person's opinion will be. I tend to think more about what others think of me than what I think of myself. That is my failing as a person, but it doesn't make it okay to think down on someone who chooses a life with their children. It doesn't mean that they give up themselves for their children. It doesn't make you a better mother to have a job or not.
I wanted to be there for her, to protect her, to teach her right from wrong, to help learn things, to make her feel loved. I am trying so hard to make her feel everything that I didn't feel when I was a child. All I want is to do right by her. Not to mention she is an amazing kid who is a blast to hang out with.
I'd like to mention my mother. She is someone who was a stay at home mom, she had a job when my sisters and i were older, but for the most part she stayed at home with us. I don't know if she was super happy doing so. I think it was just something that was done then. But when my sister had a child she used to harass my sister about quitting her job. But my sister has a career that she loves. That she has put years of school and work into. For her staying at home is not the right decision. And i respect that. She is a great mom who loves her kids, and has given them the best life she can. But my mom always thought less of her for not quitting her job. But when it came to myself and I quit my job to stay at home, she keeps asking me if I will be getting a job when my daughter goes to school. I don't understand why. But it definitely makes me feel insecure. I only want to do what's right for our family at the right time.
So just let people do what's right for them. And don't put your own opinions on other people. What's right for you doesn't make it right for everyone. Do not think less of someone for doing what's right for their family.
Monday, July 6, 2015
Five Reasons why Da'Vonne should stay in the Big Brother House!
1. I love her.
2. She is a big target and will always be a big target which means that she will never make it to the end, so therefore she is not a threat and can be taken out at any time.
3. She is great in the diary room. She's got alot to say and she doesn't hold back.
4. At the very least, even if you don't trust her, you know she's not lying to you because she tells it like it is. She is very straight forward with her feelings, and that is what has gotten her into trouble. Better to keep the person who you know is an enemy rather than keep someone who will stab you in the back.
5. She is not a floater. Do not let the floaters make it to the jury. If they do, no one will ever vote them out. Which means they are the bigger threat to your game.
2. She is a big target and will always be a big target which means that she will never make it to the end, so therefore she is not a threat and can be taken out at any time.
3. She is great in the diary room. She's got alot to say and she doesn't hold back.
4. At the very least, even if you don't trust her, you know she's not lying to you because she tells it like it is. She is very straight forward with her feelings, and that is what has gotten her into trouble. Better to keep the person who you know is an enemy rather than keep someone who will stab you in the back.
5. She is not a floater. Do not let the floaters make it to the jury. If they do, no one will ever vote them out. Which means they are the bigger threat to your game.
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